bored

I'm feeling kind of aimless this evening. Nobody else is home, which is unusual, so I'm feeling like I should be out doing something fun, too. I should make more of an effort to organise fun and/or sociable things (I know... I've written that before). I would almost even want to call someone just to chat, if I knew someone I could be sure I wasn't bothering.
Last time I saw the therapist, she asked about friends I'd seen at home and I told her I'd called them to organise things to do together. She asked why I don't ever call anyone here. Partly it was just that I didn't have internet at home, so I couldn't email to arrange meeting up, but I think I also don't have the same kind of friends here.
I don't really socialise outside of people I live with, one friend from home who's also here and bloggers. I'll sometimes call the friend from home, or she'll call me, but otherwise I rarely talk on the phone. Because I see the people I live with relatively frequently (at least, in theory), when we do stuff, it's generally more focussed on some activity, whereas at home I'd arrange to get together with friends just to catch up and talk.
I wish I'd done a better job of making those kinds of friends here. I'm still sad that none of the people in my program emailed me back after the last time I suggested getting together. I don't blame them, though. They've developed closer friendships with each other, so why do they need me popping up occasionally to try to join in? I'm not sure what I should've done differently so that I'd be included.
I didn't have a cell phone for most of the first year I was here, so I missed out on a lot of the impromptu social activities, and the opportunity to get into a pattern of keeping in touch with people, when they would've been more willing to include me. Now, they don't expect me to be involved.
When I said I didn't like calling people just to chat because I worried that I'd just be bothering them, the therapist suggested that I should trust people to not answer their phone if they didn't want to talk. I don't think it's that simple, though. It's not so much that I worry about calling at an inconvenient time, more that the person might not want to talk to me at all, or would think it was weird that I would call.
I can't remember how I got to be friends with people at home. I know I made a conscious effort to make friends with my best friend at home. I didn't know anyone in most of my lectures in 3rd year at uni, because I was doing a weird course that was out of sync with the people I already knew, so I made a point of talking to the people I sat next to and trying to find them to sit next to again (kind of hard in a class of several hundred). I'm not sure how I got from sitting with her in class to actually being friends, though, especially since my in-class friendships in other classes didn't translate. I wish there were some rules to follow...
At this point, I feel like most people I know think I'm just generally anti-social, so changing their opinions seems daunting. Maybe it would be easier to start over with new friends, except that I wouldn't know how I'd go about meeting new people, and then I'd have the same trouble with trying to be more sociable, anyway.
A housemate and friends just came home to pick up drinks before going to their second fun thing of the evening and I'm sitting here with my laptop. I feel lame... I should stop dwelling, anyway. And, I just got a text message, so I should stop complaining.